I know my pain points ...

Somewhere I read this long ago which I recollect too often..

If you are ill, don’t ignore it and do visit a doctor. Because doctor must live.
Now if doctor prescribes medicine, you don’t ignore and please go to a chemist because chemist must live.
Now you put those medicines into a bin as you must live too..

Sorry if anyone’s sentiment is hurt. But its true that medicines don’t do only good to the body and medicine’s intake should be controlled as much as possible. Recently my friend had to go to a doctor for UTI problem with fever and under pain. Doctor after thorough test and questions, prescribed 4 different types of medicines; one for infection, one for fever, one for controlling frequency, one for pain and left her with an advise to come back after 2 days for checkup because if its not reduced by then, then it might be a kidney problem. My friend had wisely gone to the doctor and wisely paid for lab test, consultation and medicine. But, she also wisely and bravely decided to take only one medicine for the first day which was for treating the infection as that was the cause for all problems and she decided to start with other medicines after a day only if there is no significant improvement. But that one medicine worked well and she was completely cured in 2 days. Yes this logic can be devastatingly life taking if applied as a thumb rule in every case. Because, doctors understand body science better than us. But at the same time it is also true that Medicine doesn’t do only good to the body. Finally, as a sufferer we understand the suffering and we love ourselves the most.

This theory is similar to what they say about consultants. A consultant is one who takes out the watch from your own wrist and tells you the time and bills for it. And still big corporates hire and seek big strategic advise from external consultants for their small internal problems. Yes, true that consultant firms need to survive. But corporates should also understand that internal problems can be better understood by internal people with little effort and interest.

Pursuit of Love and Happiness

Relationship is an illusion

• which stays as long as both believe in the same illusion in same way
• which becomes a torture when one doesn’t have confidence that the other has belief in the illusion
• which ends when one of them flips and thinks that it is just an illusion.

The above lines may sound very cynical but my mind couldn’t help but think in these lines.

Is this love? “yes it is” or “yes, that’s it and all over”
Yes, two answers for same question and these days I think these two answers make two faces of a coin. I am surprised to hear more of divorce and break up news these days than the news on newly found love. And I am more surprised and puzzled to know the reason behind those breaking relationships.

These days, break-ups are looked upon as a relieving solution rather than holding onto falling tree. When love blossoms there is fragrance in air and music in wind. But it requires a lot of effort to recreate the same magic again and again and nurture the relationship. From couple of those breakup stories I learnt that there was no base for the relationship and my friends were just playing trial and error or more or less cheating from one side or both the sides. The same trial and error had worked a great deal in the past in our moms’ and grandma’s era. But now, life comes with lot of boldness for all kinds of trial & error and lot of independence to turn a new leaf when encountered with error after enough trials.

Life has to go on and same goes for pursuit of love and happiness. Hope those friends of mine turn new leaf in life with new confidence and enthusiasm.

Love driving Life

What is the most romantic scene in this world?
A couple sitting on a bench in park hand in hand, with beautiful smile that gleams through wrinkled face, with eyes which have seen the world and years of life but haven't just tired of seeing each other and they still say ‘just not enough’.

Yes we come across such scenes everywhere, in trains, temples, markets, the old couples supporting each other, taking care of each other, reminding each other of medical routines etc.

Love is about loving someone/something whole heartedly for what he/she/it is and accepting for what he/she/it is not and continuing to love.
Love is that which drives the life. Love for wife/husband, parents, kids, friends, work, nature and of all love for self.
All our actions and reactions are based on that. The same love gives care and responsibilities and makes us a living thing rather than an object.

The first prayer I was taught as kid was to ask god to give happiness, wellness & health to myself, mom, dad, sisters.... and everyone else in the society. And I still remember how mom asked to change the order by placing dad in the beginning. And I also still remember when the same prayer got succeeded to my younger sister, she promptly confirmed at the end of her prayer application to god by telling "Its Me so and so asking you who is daughter of so and so... and stays in ......... So, you know me right?"

In essence, every prayer of every religion has a message of love in it. But I wonder why there is so much violence in this world then. Again, the answer is in that obsessed, dominating self-righteous love for ones self or some specific thing which has influenced to look down upon rest of the world blindly.
If we believe that God is one, and if we believe that he is the supreme power of this universe then can't we just love each and every of his creations, actions and happenings with the same logic of loving for what it is and for what it is not ???