Relationship is an illusion
- which stays as long as both believe in the same illusion in same way
- which becomes a torture when one doesn’t have confidence that the other has belief in the illusion
- which ends when one of them flips and thinks that it is just an illusion.
The above lines may sound very cynical but my mind couldn’t help but think in these lines.
Is this love? “yes it is” or “yes, that’s it and all over”
Yes, two answers for same question and these days I think these two answers make two faces of a coin. I am surprised to hear more of divorce and break up news these days than the news on newly found love. And I am more surprised and puzzled to know the reason behind those breaking relationships.
These days, break-ups are looked upon as a relieving solution rather than holding onto falling tree. When love blossoms there is fragrance in air and music in wind. But it requires a lot of effort to recreate the same magic again and again and nurture the relationship. From couple of those breakup stories I learnt that there was no base for the relationship and my friends were just playing trial and error or more or less cheating from one side or both the sides. The same trial and error had worked a great deal in the past in our moms’ and grandma’s era. But now, life comes with lot of boldness for all kinds of trial & error and lot of independence to turn a new leaf when encountered with error after enough trials.
Life has to go on and same goes for pursuit of love and happiness. Hope those friends of mine turn new leaf in life with new confidence and enthusiasm.
Is this love? “yes it is” or “yes, that’s it and all over”
Yes, two answers for same question and these days I think these two answers make two faces of a coin. I am surprised to hear more of divorce and break up news these days than the news on newly found love. And I am more surprised and puzzled to know the reason behind those breaking relationships.
These days, break-ups are looked upon as a relieving solution rather than holding onto falling tree. When love blossoms there is fragrance in air and music in wind. But it requires a lot of effort to recreate the same magic again and again and nurture the relationship. From couple of those breakup stories I learnt that there was no base for the relationship and my friends were just playing trial and error or more or less cheating from one side or both the sides. The same trial and error had worked a great deal in the past in our moms’ and grandma’s era. But now, life comes with lot of boldness for all kinds of trial & error and lot of independence to turn a new leaf when encountered with error after enough trials.
Life has to go on and same goes for pursuit of love and happiness. Hope those friends of mine turn new leaf in life with new confidence and enthusiasm.
People nowadays have discovered this new found "independence" of sorts .. the taboos known earlier do not apply anymore and ending a relationship and/or starting a new one does not attract the same censure it used to. I am sad about it but at some level also wonder if this is the lack of hypocrisy which might be required ... for what purpose is a relatioship if the people part of it are not happy?
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